The Second Spring

Once we have weathered the conflicts of the second great journey and have - at least partially – returned to ourselves, we have truly grown up. We should have learned by now to take ourselves more seriously than others, without at the same time being recklessly egotistical. And we should have recognized that many of our ideas and conceptions have less to do with ourselves than we think.

We have grown up and matured, picking up one or two scars in the process. What is important however, is our ability to show these scars without shame or blame, and without hope that our partner will perform some sort of cosmetic surgery on them. Yesterday’s constant smile will have faded from many faces, and what people generally call charisma will begin to develop. It is a sort of unity with oneself, with one’s wounds and pain, with one’s joy and desires, which one perceives in people at this stage.

Writing about this topic, the poet Kahlil Gibran says: “Facial expressions that disclose the secrets of our souls give the face a look of beauty and charm, even when these secrets are painful and distressing. On the other hand, faces that conceal what we feel on the inside like masks lack any kind of beauty, even when the face is externally symmetrical and harmonic.”

The second spring is like the re-kindling of a love that you had given up on.

This spark, however, cannot be compared to falling in love at the beginning of your journey.

The autistic phase is marked by the search for a partner who will fill as many of our needs as possible, and for whose care we do not want to take any responsibility.
In the second spring, however, we look respectfully to our partner, regarding them as someone who has supported and endured us as we left the nest and took our first flight. Someone who stuck by our side even though everything went against it, who truly deserves our respect and our gratitude.