About us
The most important step in our lives was learning to grow up.
What is a partnership compared to love?
We were a couple for over 18 years, were married, and built up this practice together.
Each of us did our best. We sought harmony and intimacy, but dark clouds gathered and not only spoiled one day or another, but sometimes called everything into question.
Everyone had their own idea of love, partnership and sexuality.
After many arguments, tears and trying to please the other person, we lost each other and finally split up.
We each went our own way and we almost lost sight of each other in our efforts to catch up on everything that had been put on hold in the partnership.
Long before our separation, we developed the “model of a partnership”, which was also a way to after a separation: first back to oneself and then to a possible approach to mature love. We were aware that a separation is not a separation from a person, but from the illusions and dreams associated with them. We worked with this model, wrote about it, but did not live it ourselves.
Over the last few years, we’ve gone through all the phases: we were angry and disappointed. We grew apart, it felt alienating and the feeling of “all is lost” grew. Fears, hopes and doubts accompanied us on our way. We moved on and each of us found love within ourselves: a love from which we can meet ourselves and others – a love beyond the romantic love of the beginning, but also a connection more stable than ever before.
The separation we describe in our model was perhaps the most important step in our lives: we learned to grow up.
Even in the past, we rarely had “solutions” ready, but could only mirror our clients and open doors to their own answers. Through our own process, both our inner experience and our humility before the individual relationship experience of others has grown.
After more than 7000 couples who have visited our practice over the last 16 years, our approach has been confirmed more and more. We don’t know where our relationship will lead, but it is precisely in this “not knowing” that all opportunities and possibilities lie.
The challenge is to leave everything open.
